My encounters with parents have been in fun and in crisis. My experiences have been in family court- truancy to being a positive in assisting parents in getting their child back after removal. I have worked with parents before birth and up to teen. I can say I have specialty in the zero to 12 year age group- brain development, Dads, Grandparents, active school participation. Personally, cumulatively, I have 41 years experience in child rearing.

How raw can parenting be? That first week , 168 hours, as a new parent, can go from a semblance of knowledgeable confidence to an almost uncontrollable whimpering while rocking their crying child. How did that happen? The parent’s focus was on the “little bundle of joy” and not focused on the “new puzzle” before he or she has entered their home. The parents didn’t truly realize that the  “new puzzle” has parts of them and multiplying outward of 4, 8, 16, 32 etc.- grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great-grandparents. The parent needed to become that investigative reporter- going back as much as the 8- great grandparents. Ask candidly about their behaviors as babies and toddlers. How were behaviors, back then seen, handled and long-term effect {they’re telling you about it is one long-term effect}. That investigative reporter parent will start to SEE more pieces to the “new puzzle”.  Don’t brush this important step off. Let’s face it, many parents have come in strong only to have a 6lb. 5oz. baby make them second guess their 14th guess.

Both parents should learn to be the investigative reporter for their new family-to-be. As your “new puzzle” comes together, pull out your notes to see which side of the family this particular behavior is coming from or if it’s actually belongs to your child. In my 24-hour childcare  business, we truly talk with both parents, if possible, also looking at their behaviors if coming in stressed, in-between or relaxed.  Child care providers are outsiders trying to piece together their children, without access to the 1, 4, or 8. In talking with parents, I’ve looked at their children and thought, “You don’t even know why you’re behaving this way.”

As I stated, I have cumulatively 41 years of child rearing experience, am I as uncertain now? Heck no! I did the investigations- family and activities. I have been the type of parent that nudged their children toward their own kind of independence. There were times I hovered in the shadows. When a parent, friend, or community person would make strong suggestions about certain activities, I would investigate before letting them participate.

What am I trying to say to you, “Why aren’t you asking why, how come or other questions?”  “Why aren’t you trying to make your parenting life much smoother?”

Introductions to new learning experiences for parents and children should be fun and enjoyable. Children have no knowledge of societal competitions. They see a new world and work in all that they do. The new worlds and works are experienced many times in play.

Play is essential, play is fun. Children remind us how much fun adventures can be. The showing of the varied emotions- excitement, surprise, anger, frustration; can come in 7 seconds of a fun adventure.

Adults view playing stops at around ages 5 or 6, when children go off to the formal environment of education- school and start to learn and can really begin to do things. Playing IS learning! It is also a bridge that connects the adult to the child on the child’s level. It may also be a stress reliever for the adult.

There are parents who see their infant and toddler as helpless. At Talk, Walk & Learn Center, LLC/SHIFTS Night Care Center, LLC 24-hour specialty childcare services, we see them as stronger little people by the second. We give more to them as well as to the parent. We teach the parents to look ahead some 20 years and more. Here’s an example:

• a seasoned parent, who had enrolled with us, was asked what did they want their 3 month old child to learn. The parent responded and pointed to their child, “This! what can he learn at this age?”

The teacher talked with that parent, showing all the developmental things done with their child as well as what can be done at home.

We value the children that walk through our doors, as well as the parents. We set about teaching both. For the adults it may be subtle. There have been times when it was “Hold it! Are you seeing what  is before you?” We then ask the parent if they want our assistance or if they desire a specific community liaison to assist them.

We welcome you to our web site and into our doors.

1. Show affection and closeness with your child that you plan on continuing the rest of their life.
2. Talk with them, opening up and continuing communication the way you plan to continue for the rest of their life.
3. Read with some form of facial enthusiasm, modeling this technique can encourage a healthy reader for the rest of their life.
4. Writing, beyond checks, and showing what the writing looks like, how to hold the pencil/pen, and strengthening the muscles in the hand can encourage a healthy writer for the rest of their life.
5. Speaking in conversation and in public with the use of correct pronunciation and grammar can encourage a healthy speaker for the rest of their life.
6. Being seen as approachable by others, warm smiles, hugs, extending to handshake, etc. can encourage a healthy approachable spirit for the rest of their life.
7. Showing how to positive problem solving/resolution techniques encourages a healthy problem solver for the rest of their life.

Do you see our theme here: ‘plan’ ‘healthy’ ‘for the rest of their life.’

Welcome to our web site and into our doors.

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There are many  things to be learned in starting your own business, the foundational two are:

1. The ‘-ologies’- sociology, psychology, anthropology and archeology
2. The ‘others’- mathematics, logic, statistics, computer science, some social work, humanities, etc.

Don’t ever take business lightly when wanting to start your own. Get an understanding of people before, during and after your dealings with them. I got the bruising, bumps, scrapes, the ‘stretch marks’ of business growth that opens eyes beyond what any profit could. These and more are seen as continuances when in business for self.

I, Rhonda Teague, welcome you to my business web site and to my 24-hour specialty childcare services. I and my staff look forward to meeting you- parents, children and community liaisons.